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To The Women Who Mothered Me – Part I

Mother's Day Blog Post

My big brother in Nassau called moments ago to wish me a Happy Mother’s Day. We reminisced about our mother, who left us in 2011. He spoke about the little things we took for granted from those who passed away. The long chats he used to have with Mama; how in the midst of a late night conversation Sister Madge would fall asleep only to wake up at the tail end of the conversation. We also spoke about our niece Sonia, and how we relied on her to get things done on our behalf. He ended by saying, “I miss those little things.” Yes, we do!

And so, I am taking this time to reflect on some of the women who mothered me. Some things might not make sense to you, dear reader, but I hope you will enjoy reading the post. The image is a collage of the 175-year-old church in which I grew up; the last orchid my Sister Madge planted before she passed in 2012, and my favourite snacks that only my Aunt Elsie could make. They each have a connection to the women mentioned below and the significant role they played in my life. Although they are no longer around, I honour them today.

Mama – Chief Encourager: The best mother anyone could have asked for, no kidding! She was supportive, encouraging, loved God, loved people, adopted others as her own. She was fearless. She took her first plane ride in her late 70’s, when my big sister didn’t even want a passport. She fearlessly rode the elevators to the 85th floor of the Empire State Building in New York, when I was scared. She accompanied me and my family to several Toronto Blue Jays games, and in her 90’s, attended a Colorado Rockies game with us in Denver. She enjoyed watching the planes take off and land at Pearson International from Derry Road. I miss those Sunday evenings with her. As dementia took its toll, she asked me one day,“Whose daughter are you again?” I put my head in her lap and cried. Yes, her lap was my favourite place as it was so comforting.

Sister Madge – Teacher and Preacher: She was my big sister, but most people in our town called her Sister Madge as well. A young adult by the time I was born, she was like a second mother to the other five siblings. She knew the birds and the bees story wouldn’t work with me, so she bought me a copy of “On Becoming a Woman”. How embarrassing, I remember feeling. Unlike our mother, she had no interest in travelling, but believed God made her to be a teacher, and she wasn’t venturing beyond that. After her teaching years, she became a lay pastor. I remember for just being my big Sister Madge!

Sonia – Chief Generosity Officer: My niece, who thought she was a sister (and we grew up as such). She was two years my junior, and Sister Madge’s only child. She was generous to a fault and we took her generosity for granted. She would be up late at nights creating crochet pieces, yet up before dawn to make breakfast for us whenever we went home to Jamaica. Her passing took the wind out of my sail, shook my faith and, for a whole year, had me questioning the value of prayer. Yet, it was her quiet strength and unselfish nature that gradually restored my Christian faith.

Aunt Elsie – Chief Cook: My first official teacher from age three. She once punished me for laughing at an old lady (Miss Beck), even though my other classmates were also laughing. I could’ve been about 5 years old at that time. However, I remember her most for making the best ginger beer and snacks. By way of explanation, the Grater Cake (also known as Pink-on-Top) is made up of grated coconut mixed with sugar. The Gizzada, made up of grated coconut and sugar and stuffed inside a mini pie crust. Why is this important? I remember her more for those snacks and the ginger beer than the punishment meted out to me so many years ago.

Mama Ira – Chief Spelling Bee Officer: She was my grand aunt who bought me my first Spelling Bee book. I went on to become the Girls’ Spelling Bee Champion of my school and represented the school at the parish (similar to Province or State) level. I still have the Certificate of Particpation in that competition.

Miss Madge – Chief Humourist: Not to be mistaken for my Sister Madge, her children and I grew up together. In fact, her daughter, Norma, remains my best friend from elementary school. She reminds me frequently of the many sentiments her Mom would include in her letters about me. However, I remember her Mom’s great sense of humour. In her presence, there was never a dull moment, and even though she began losing her sight in later years, she never lost her sense of humour.

Like I stated at the outset, some things might not make sense. What’s important is to know that these women made an impact on me, and I am grateful for having had them in my life. If you have still have your mothers, or a surrogate mother, let her know you appreciate her while she is still with you.

 

 

 

 

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I am Daisy Wright, an award winning certified career management and interview coach, author, and certified resume strategist. I collaborate with executives, managers, and mid-career professionals in all aspects of their career and job search to help them get hired FASTER! I am the Founder and Chief Encouragement Officer of The Wright Career Solution and quite passionate about diversity and inclusion and women's issues.

Website: www.thewrightcareer.com
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/daisywright
Twitter: @CareerTips2Go

About Daisy

I am Daisy Wright, an award winning certified career management and interview coach, author, and certified resume strategist. I collaborate with executives, managers, and mid-career professionals in all aspects of their career and job search to help them get hired FASTER! I am the Founder and Chief Encouragement Officer of The Wright Career Solution and quite passionate about diversity and inclusion and women's issues.

Website: www.thewrightcareer.com
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/daisywright
Twitter: @CareerTips2Go

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